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Femcels rising: how to cope with lack of sex and intimacy The media is bombarding us with sex tips and sex normalization. But what if we're not getting any? How do the rest of us fit in?
Anyone who is exposed to mainstream media on a regular basis is pretty much constantly reminded of sex. We are told how good it is for you, how we can have better orgasms and how to impress our lovers with exciting new skills. We get told how to attract people to do it with, and how to make those we’ve snared want more. But… what if we’re not getting any, eh? How do the rest of us fit in? It has to be said, some people actively choose not to have sex. Whether they’re committed to religious beliefs which state they should wait until after marriage, or are simply deciding for…
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How to train kids to do their own cleaning Feeling like your family's maid? Worried your kids aren't learning to be responsible for their own messes? Here's how to get kids to clean at any age.
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It Happened To Me: We invited a transwoman to girl’s night and it blew up in our faces "I'm sorry but if you're uncomfortable now, wait until we lez out and instead of licking you have to suck."
On Friday night a group of friends and I decided to have a girls night in to “celebrate” a break up one of them had just had. Our plan was to watch cheesy movies, laugh, cry, order pizza, drink wine and just do girl things. It wasn’t a planned sleepover but I didn’t mind if anyone decided to stay. We have a trans girl who is sort of like our friend but she lives an hour a way so we don’t know her all that well. On the occasion we do see her she’s always been friendly and nice. Her name is Tilly. Some of us know her pre-trans, some…
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Access the healing power of nature from home with nature meditation Here's how to develop a effective personal nature meditation full of natural settings that bring bliss.
5 ways to endure your horrible fashion job Only 48% of people in the fashion industry are content with their jobs. They obviously haven't read this.
The no-BS way to find Mr. Right: date hundreds of men If you are looking for a job, would you apply for one job and then sit home waiting for that one call? No!
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It Happened To Me: I let my wife almost kill our son—and I’m glad it happened From the day he was born, my son just came out wrong.
Content warning: this post deals with very severe mental illness and violence. My son was very troubled. VERY troubled. If you have seen the movie “We Need To Talk About Kevin”, it will really help to understand what I’m talking about, because I swear to God when I watched that film I thought I was watching a documentary of my life. I felt like the writer must have had cameras hidden in my damn house, that’s how accurate it was. The only difference is that in the movie, the boy appears normal to his father and only reveals his true nature to his mother. My son didn’t have that mask.…
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10 things mothers are just better at than us fathers It's no surprise that kids prefer that their mothers do certain things rather than their fathers.
My week in Cuba following Castro’s death Time in Cuba usually moves slowly, but it took on a crazed momentum after Fidel Castro died.
The Relationship Fade is the best non-breakup breakup ever There's a way to break up with someone without ever really discussing it. Here's the scoop—and techniques.
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It Happened To Me: I let my father pay me for sex My mother told me that everyone is done with me, and to please leave them alone.
I don’t remember when he started touching me, that was just always a part of our relationship. I remember when he started having sex with me. I was young. Then he stopped for a few years. Maybe he was afraid he would get caught. He started again when I was around 13. He never physically forced me, but would ask and beg. “Daddy loves you so much.” “Please do this for daddy.” “Daddy wants to make you feel good.” I was ashamed and I’m still humiliated by the fact that my body liked some of what he did to me. But I did not like it. Or want it. I…
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12 hacks for having a social life after becoming a parent If you're always putting your kids' good time ahead of your own, rethink that—life's too short not to have parent fun, and lots and lots of it.
Top 100 strangest celebrity baby names The richer the parents are, the less likely you are to be teased. Just ask Tallulah, Rumer and Scout.
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It Happened To Me: I keep having dreams where I call Obama the N-word and I want it to stop Every time it happens my work suffers the next day.
Politically, I’ve been a Democrat my entire life and an Obama supporter for as long as I can remember. I volunteered for John Kerry’s presidential campaign back in 2004 which is where Obama first registered on my map. I watched his speech at the DNC and was instantly enamored. And when he announced his candidacy for president in 2007, I immediately threw my weight behind him. I knocked on doors, educated people about his policies and did the best I could to get people to vote for him. When he was elected, I was ecstatic. In the past, when I had supported candidates, it was out of cold reason; because…
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How to sunbathe safely, according to a dermatologist You're going to bask in the glorious, bright, beaming ball of fire that wants to kill you any way, so read this.
You are beautiful just the way you are. Join the No Makeup revolution. Months of my life were wasted on this pointless ritual before I realized that slathering our skin organ with industrial byproducts is the Chinese footbinding of our age.
Aaww! Fainting kittens is the most adorable genetic deformity ever This is like natural selection or something.
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It Happened To Me: I thought I was pregnant, but it was just my fat Is it possible to be a pregnant virgin? No, but that didn't stop me from convincing myself that I was. Here's why.
Last week, I was convinced that I was pregnant, even though nobody has ever ejaculated into my vagina. I’d like the record to show that I, Ashley Reese, am pretty well versed in sex education. I had plenty of in-depth sex ed at my progressive private schools growing up and I even write for a teen girl site in which I let help our readers separate fact–yes, you can potentially get pregnant even if you do it on your period, your boyfriend is a 15-year-old idiot, please don’t listen to him–from fiction–no, you can’t get pregnant if he came on your leg. So I’m not in the stick-a-can-of-soda-up-your-cooch-to-kill-the-sperm camp by any stretch…
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Trading sex for money and drugs: what it’s like to be a street prostitute The hard lives of street prostitutes are very different from our idealized images of 'high-class' call girls.
It Happened To Me: I succumbed to desire and asked my husband’s hot friend to teach me yoga The wedding band is no ward against desire. I knew I was playing with fire.
A decade of dishes will turn a girl into a woman And a sensible one, at that.
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My friends all had babies—and aborted me In the little time we do get together, do I need to hear about the color and smell of everyone’s baby’s poop!?
Among my amazing gaggle of female friends, many of us got married within the same two-year period (myself excluded). It was a time of wanton dancing, runny mascara joy-tears, eternal love pacts – and that was just the bachelorette parties. Now, two years later, many of us* have new babies. I knew, intellectually, that some dynamics would change among our group. Still, I’ve been surprised to see how different things have become in such a short period of time. And I’ve been embarrassed, frankly, by how hard this has been for me. Just to be clear, I could not be happier for my friends who are new mothers. Their babies…
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Jesus would want us to be climate activists: Christianity & the environment Don't believe the media. All denominations of Christianity teach that humans are commanded be good stewards of our planet.
Science agrees: an orgasm a day keeps the doctor away As if we needed another excuse.
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Confronting my vagina: do I have vaginismus? I've come to terms with the fact that my vagina is plotting against me. So do I have a sexual dysfunction called vaginismus?
“Does my vagina feel like there’s a cement wall there or something?” This is the question I posed to my boyfriend this morning, perfect to file under Sweet Nothings To Use On Bae Before Eight AM. Way back when I first started talking about my difficulty having sex, I received a few comments here and there suggesting that I have vaginismus. For those of you who don’t know what vaginismus is, it’s a condition in which, upon penetration, the vaginal walls freak the fuck out and tighten. This makes vaginal penetration incredibly painful or damn near impossible. It also kind of sounds like a type of dinosaur, but that’s not…
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Struggles of a royal mistress: the women who went to any length to obtain their kings In order to have sex with a king, you had to be one accomplished mistress.
This sacred yogi chart tells you everything about yourself based on how many guys you’ve been with Chart your way to your essence using the following sacred yogi chart from India.
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No, my Blackness isn’t determined by who I date Is Blackness so fragile that all it takes is a white dick to break it? No. Fuck that, and frankly fuck anyone who subscribes to that.
I was walking around with my boyfriend this past weekend when a random dude came up behind me, put his hands underneath my skirt, and started slapping my bottom repeatedly. Broad daylight. It was the kind of thing that was so shocking that it took a while to even process what the fuck was going on. I turned around and cursed him out while he ran away. My boyfriend suggested that we try to see if we can find him. We couldn’t. My impulse was to call 911. The cops came a glorious 20 minutes after the incident, and I reluctantly cooperated with them despite their rudeness. This dude is…
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Learning to love my vagina (and myself), one stuck Diva Cup at a time Despite my loyal appeal to tradition, I decided to finally abandon the tampon and try the Diva Cup in the name of healthy, mindful living.
The first time I heard its name I was twenty-something, sipping Bullitt Rye out of a red Solo cup at a friend’s birthday party. A woman was standing with her boyfriend and a few randos describing, in abhorrent detail, how the Diva Cup had changed her life. I was repulsed by her openness to casually discuss how she inserted the Diva Cup into her vagina. I was further traumatized by her willingness to describe how she removed it. Women were not supposed to talk about their genitals at parties. They were supposed to talk about normal woman things like men, lipstick and the hot weather. Anything involving our periods, or things…
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It Happened To Me: he wants to become a ‘panty tree’ He covers his body in underwear and stands still for long periods of time as a panty tree.
