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Why is it ok to assume consent during fantasies? I can no longer enjoy erotic fantasy unless consent is very clearly dealt with, but I worry that others' imaginations are not as ethical.
I admit that it sometimes affects my enjoyment of light-hearted pleasurable things and can cause people to use their *confused face* on me when I tell them. It started a few years ago, but now I can’t switch it off. My thing is… I just can’t enjoy fantasies unless consent is very clearly dealt with. Does that seem odd? I’m not entirely sure how it happened either, as I wasn’t always like this. It started a while ago with my own fantasies. I’d be imagining something hot happening with my latest crush, and then the logical side of my brain would step in and say, “but that would never happen.”…
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The internet is toxic – here are five possible cures The Internet can be a tremendously awful place. Here are some ideas for solutions from thinkers all over the world.
Anybody who’s spent any amount of time logged on knows that the Internet can be a tremendously awful place. The same series of tubes that brings us movie trailers and dog pics are also used to deliver hatred and vitriol from complete strangers. And if you think that things are getting worse online, you’re right. The Internet Health Report, a new project from Mozilla, aims to build a picture of the sanity and stability of the Internet, all three billion online souls who make it what it is. It’s a dense and difficult report, full of information, and although there are certainly some positives, it also offers some chilling predictions.…
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AWKWARD! Youtuber asks strangers to rate each other’s weight—and there’s only one fat girl "You could see how bad the 'obese' girl felt."
“You could see how bad the ‘obese’ girl felt,” reads one comment with over 200 upvotes to the controversial video that seems to divide everyone. The creator of the video, blogilates, has posted a defense of sorts where they claim the women were aware ahead of time that they would be discussing weight. Apparently that’s an asshole license and everything’s fine then. I started planning this video a while ago, and I was very aware of how sensitive this topic was going to be. We needed to find women who were comfortable discussing their weight on camera and we needed to produce this video in the most compassionate way. I…
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Vigilante ‘Chads’ to protect moviegoers against Incel attacks at ‘Joker’ launch Incel researchers are sounding the alarm—and organizing.
The domestic terrorist group known as Incel has been getting attention from media and the U.S. government lately, and not a moment too early. There is a clear and growing consensus within Incel that says members should “rise up” and “watch the world burn” — for their “virgins with rage” to take revenge on the “Stacies” who have rejected them all their lives. The group is steeped in confusing darkweb lingo, but it all revolves around, and results in, white male virgins picking up AR-15s and carrying out the mass shooting tragedies you have seen on your newsfeed. The United States Department of Homeland Security earlier this year noticed the…
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It Happened To Me: We invited a transwoman to girl’s night and it blew up in our faces "I'm sorry but if you're uncomfortable now, wait until we lez out and instead of licking you have to suck."
On Friday night a group of friends and I decided to have a girls night in to “celebrate” a break up one of them had just had. Our plan was to watch cheesy movies, laugh, cry, order pizza, drink wine and just do girl things. It wasn’t a planned sleepover but I didn’t mind if anyone decided to stay. We have a trans girl who is sort of like our friend but she lives an hour a way so we don’t know her all that well. On the occasion we do see her she’s always been friendly and nice. Her name is Tilly. Some of us know her pre-trans, some…
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It Happened To Me: I let my wife almost kill our son—and I’m glad it happened From the day he was born, my son just came out wrong.
Content warning: this post deals with very severe mental illness and violence. My son was very troubled. VERY troubled. If you have seen the movie “We Need To Talk About Kevin”, it will really help to understand what I’m talking about, because I swear to God when I watched that film I thought I was watching a documentary of my life. I felt like the writer must have had cameras hidden in my damn house, that’s how accurate it was. The only difference is that in the movie, the boy appears normal to his father and only reveals his true nature to his mother. My son didn’t have that mask.…
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It Happened To Me: I let my father pay me for sex My mother told me that everyone is done with me, and to please leave them alone.
I don’t remember when he started touching me, that was just always a part of our relationship. I remember when he started having sex with me. I was young. Then he stopped for a few years. Maybe he was afraid he would get caught. He started again when I was around 13. He never physically forced me, but would ask and beg. “Daddy loves you so much.” “Please do this for daddy.” “Daddy wants to make you feel good.” I was ashamed and I’m still humiliated by the fact that my body liked some of what he did to me. But I did not like it. Or want it. I…
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Was Anthony Bourdain facing a #MeToo allegation? The very women he purported to love and respect would dance like banshee witches on his corpse if it turned out that one of their sisters had the fury of a woman scorned.
Even though I have never particularly cared for Anthony Bourdain’s swaggering, leftie, virtue-signalling persona – his holier-than-thou pretentiousness about how much he loved and admired and respected women while banging starlets half his age – and good for him, it’s the hypocrisy I resent, not the younger women – I was still saddened this morning to hear of his death, apparently by suicide. Bourdain was a well-kept, attractive man with a hugely charismatic personality and a great penchant for storytelling, as well as a formidable appetite for wine and women. It took my mind all of two seconds to wonder if Bourdain was not about to get slaughtered by his…
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Top 5 allegations in the ‘Shitty Media Men’ list A deep dive into the anonymous Google Docs spreadsheet accusing 77 'media men' of anything from awkward DMs to rape—and some legit funny stuff.
A few weeks ago, after the Harvey Weinstein allegations hit, some girls in the media industry put together a Google Doc with names of guys who have been accused of sexual harassment and what have you. It was distributed to other girls in the media industry, who could anonymously edit the document. They were instructed to not send the list to any men and to not flip out if any of their friends were on it. The list was an incredibly dumb idea (2018 update: man named by ‘Shitty Media Men’ list sues its creator, Moira Donegan, for $1.5 million), and it was only a matter of time before someone…
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He regretted sex with a fat girl, so WSU found Rose guilty of rape Rose's life has been devastated by a complaint made after her partner was teased about fooling around with a big girl.
Buzzfeed has a long article on the plight of a young woman identified only by her middle name, Rose, who was expelled from Washington State University after the school’s Office of Equal Opportunity (OEO) concluded that she had subjected a male student to “unwanted, nonconsensual sexual contact” and was “a danger” to other students. Documents published by Buzzfeed show that on a night in January 2014, when Rose was midway through her freshman year at WSU, she joined the complainant and several friends of his in drinking games a lounge at the dorm. After a while, Rose and her “victim” went back to her room and started kissing. Rose asked…