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Why is it ok to assume consent during fantasies? I can no longer enjoy erotic fantasy unless consent is very clearly dealt with, but I worry that others' imaginations are not as ethical.
I admit that it sometimes affects my enjoyment of light-hearted pleasurable things and can cause people to use their *confused face* on me when I tell them. It started a few years ago, but now I can’t switch it off. My thing is… I just can’t enjoy fantasies unless consent is very clearly dealt with. Does that seem odd? I’m not entirely sure how it happened either, as I wasn’t always like this. It started a while ago with my own fantasies. I’d be imagining something hot happening with my latest crush, and then the logical side of my brain would step in and say, “but that would never happen.”…
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The internet is toxic – here are five possible cures The Internet can be a tremendously awful place. Here are some ideas for solutions from thinkers all over the world.
Anybody who’s spent any amount of time logged on knows that the Internet can be a tremendously awful place. The same series of tubes that brings us movie trailers and dog pics are also used to deliver hatred and vitriol from complete strangers. And if you think that things are getting worse online, you’re right. The Internet Health Report, a new project from Mozilla, aims to build a picture of the sanity and stability of the Internet, all three billion online souls who make it what it is. It’s a dense and difficult report, full of information, and although there are certainly some positives, it also offers some chilling predictions.…
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I could parent without wine, but I really don’t want to One mom gets real on the topic of (responsible) drinking and parenting.
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12 super offensive Xmas songs to get you in the mood for the stress to come Abusive Christmas songs are just as traditional as the more saccharine stuff -- and a lot more palatable.
With twelve days to Xmas it’s time we got in the mood, so here’s twelve songs to count down the days and help get you through the next twelve sleepless nights you’ll be having — quivering with excitement as you wait for Santa to come down the chimney and make his sentence known. We all know there’s nothing worse than cheery Christmas songs about baby Jesus in some manger waiting to receive his gifts from the three bloody kings. I like my noëls to have swearing and derogatory lyrics, I want to hear about the three kings gang banging Mary under the mistletoe, while Joseph fellates a cow, and Santa…
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11 groundbreaking women comic book artists that prove male artists are mediocre The female names that any serious comics geek should know and celebrate.
While the comic book industry has been viewed as a boy’s club for decades, behind the scenes some of the most innovative and creative artists have been women. Here are 11 names any serious comics geek should know and celebrate. Tarpé Mills The early days of comics were very male-dominated, but for June Tarpé Mills, that was just more motivation. The Brooklyn-born artist went by her middle name so that editors and readers wouldn’t know she was a girl. After modeling to pay her way through New York’s Pratt Institute, she worked as a fashion illustrator before working on a number of adventure comics in the early 1940s. Her most…
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I have a soft spot for Black pro athletes and their inability to manage money Yes, they're public figures. Yes, jocks are dumb as a box of ass hair. There is no excuse for the media—or you—to celebrate their downfall.
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Encourage men to pee sitting down to be more inclusive of Trans men Not every man is able to pee standing up. It is time for men to take a seat on the throne to create a more inclusive environment in the men's room.
“As I was transitioning, I found it triggering to constantly have to use the stall when going to the bathroom with my cisgender male friends,” my best friend since college recently confessed to me via Discord. I had already educated me thoroughly on the many issues faced by the Transgender Community, but I admit I had never even thought about anything like this before. The wheels in my head started whirring, and soon enough I came up with this beauty. You see, benefits of sitting down to pee for a cisgender man can include a feeling of independence, a reduction in total bathroom breaks, an even easier cleanup, SAFETY, and…
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A history of the women’s power suit We size up the power suits—from classic to cutting edge—that have advanced us through the decades.
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Men shouldn’t be afraid to wear makeup I’m a man who wears makeup, and no, I’m not ashamed of it.
Makeup isn’t just a woman’s game anymore. I say this because I’m a man who wears makeup, and no, I’m not ashamed of it. Thankfully, more and more men are beginning to use makeup as well, and as a result the stigma that beauty products are only for women are fading away. According a survey of 1,000 men in the US and UK conducted by JWT conducted in 2013, 10% of men admit to having concealer in their bathroom cabinet. In addition to that 10%, 54% admit to using facial moisturizer and wash each day. If you’re surprised, I would like to ask you to take a minute to ask…
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I’m not your gay BFF If you’re one of those straight women absolutely determined to have a gay friend, here are some base-line rules.
Gay best friends are fun to have if you like people superficially! If you’re not a sociopath, you’ll understand that having a GBF (Gay Best Friend, if you will) is a dumb as shit reason to keep someone around. Sexuality is fluid, it’s also a minute detail of someone’s personality. However, if you’re still one of those people determined to have a gay friend, here are some base-line rules I like to follow when befriending other straight people in a healthy and not insane way that you should apply to your own life. We’re not your toys I feel like due to pop-culture, young women have it in their heads…
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I have a soft spot for Black pro athletes and their inability to manage money Yes, they're public figures. Yes, jocks are dumb as a box of ass hair. There is no excuse for the media—or you—to celebrate their downfall.
I’m not sure what it is but I have a soft spot for (particularly) african-american athletes and their inability to manage money well. Maybe it’s because I was surrounded by them in college and I understand them differently than others (i.e. how they grew up and what they came from). Maybe it’s because it pains me to see people mismanage money in general, and it hurts even more when the media makes a schadenfreude-laden spectacle out of high-profile cases. Or maybe it’s because I just don’t like to see people get ridiculed in the public spotlight. Let’s face it, outside of their individual fandoms, most Americans aren’t exactly cheering for…
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5 reasons every woman should try solo camping That's 4 more reasons than not having a boyfriend.
What I learned from being raided and sent to Chicago’s infamous ‘hooker school’ During my 5yo sex worker career, I have experienced work-related fear twice. This is the story of my raid and sentence.
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AWKWARD! Youtuber asks strangers to rate each other’s weight—and there’s only one fat girl "You could see how bad the 'obese' girl felt."
“You could see how bad the ‘obese’ girl felt,” reads one comment with over 200 upvotes to the controversial video that seems to divide everyone. The creator of the video, blogilates, has posted a defense of sorts where they claim the women were aware ahead of time that they would be discussing weight. Apparently that’s an asshole license and everything’s fine then. I started planning this video a while ago, and I was very aware of how sensitive this topic was going to be. We needed to find women who were comfortable discussing their weight on camera and we needed to produce this video in the most compassionate way. I…
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Drag queen potty time attacked by trolls for teaching children bathroom positivity Drag queen potty time teaches children inclusivity and bathroom positivity. A toxic stew of alt-rightists, republicans, and other undesirable dark web elements aims to stop it.
Remember to flush! In case you weren’t aware, drag queen potty time is where parents take their children to the home of a drag queen and leave them together for an educational potty session. The beautiful shared experience between drag queen and child — the kid(s) will first watch the drag queen use the potty and then the drag queen will assist the kid(s) in proper potty use while teaching bathroom etiquette and positivity — has been gaining steam as the hottest new trend among New York City’s Upper East Side elite. “I take my cat at least once a week,” gushes one advocate of drag queen potty time. “However,…
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